lessons i have forgotten

Thanks a lot for your blog post, Fer. Below is an excerpt from her post on
October 28, 2008. Makabagbag-damdamin.

Pero nalaman kong hindi pala ganun. Minsan, when you have given all the things that you can give them, dun mo lang mare-realize na parang may kulang. Pagkatapos mong pagsilbihan lahat ng tao sa paligid mo, pagkatapos mo silang pasayahin, you’ll realize na may isang tao ka palang nakalimutang pasayahin — ang sarili mo.

Nalaman ko na you don’t always have to depend on other people. Kasi it’s like a gamble when you depend your happiness on them. Pwede nilang ibigay yun, pwede ring hindi. Nakahanda ka ba kung sakaling hindi? Somewhere along the way, you’ll realize that they will be needing other people aside from you to satisfy their needs. At ikaw, kapag wala ka nang ibang inasahan kundi sila lang, maiiwan ka. And eventually, you’ll feel like a loner.

Happiness, I guess, is a state of mind. It can be obtained not from other people, but from your own self. The first thing is for you to love yourself. Because you can never expect other people to do that for you. One of the greatest lessons that I’ve learned from life is this: learn how to value yourself, coz if you don’t, no one will.

Though we have people around us who always tell us that they love and value us, at some point, they will fail to let them feel that. If that happens, the only thing that will remain to us is the love that we have for ourselves.

Para maging masaya ka, umasa ka lang sa sarili mo. Kasi ipagkait man sayo yan ng buong mundo, kapag meron ka nyan sa puso mo, hinding-hindi yan maaalis ng kahit sino. I know I don’t love myself that much. But I know that life is a process. I know it’s not that easy, but I know I can always start. =)

~ by vingt-huit on October 28, 2008.

I learned from our professor in our journalism class when he quoted the great Walter Cronkite (I think), "History doesn't repeat itself. It rhymes." Indeed, Professor Sillcock, and people have the tendency to travel along the same stream or current or flow of mistakes they did in the past.

And it's one of those lessons I had a strong hold of, before you came. Now I've forgotten them altogether, but I will learn them again. I just hope I could start soon before the rhyme catches up to me again.